“You have to get to a point where your mood doesn’t shift based on the insignificant actions of someone else.”
— Unknown
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“The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.”
— Ritu Ghatourey
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What looks like skill is often routine.
The incremental gains are too small to notice until they are too large to ignore.
— Shane Parrish
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Motivation comes and goes. If you want to do something consistently, then don’t pick a level of difficulty that will hinge on you feeling motivated.
Make it easy enough and simple enough that you’ll do it even when you don’t feel very motivated.
— James Clear
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“Healing is layers.
Healing is time.
Healing is excruciating.
Once you think it’s done, it’s not.”
— Mary DeMuth
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The Small Steps of Giant Leaps
One of the most beneficial skills you can learn in life is how to consistently put yourself in a good position. The person who finds themselves in a strong position can take advantage of circumstances while others are forced into a series of poor choices.
Strong positions are not an accident. Weak positions aren’t bad luck.
Telling someone they need to put themselves in a strong position is useless. Everyone knows they need a strong foundation to build a house that can weather a storm (or a wolf, thank you Three Little Pigs) but not everyone knows how we can create that foundation.
The answer is as simple as it is frustrating. The position you find yourself in today is the accumulation of the small choices that you’ve been making for years.
If that’s the case, why doesn’t everyone make choices that will put them in a good position in the future?
The ordinary choices that guarantee a strong future go unnoticed. There is no pat on the back for doing the right thing just as there is no slap on the wrist for doing the wrong thing.
Eating a chocolate bar right now won’t make you unhealthy. Just as not eating it won’t make you healthy. Saving money today won’t make you rich, just as not saving it won’t make you poor. Reading a chapter of a great book today won’t solve your problems just as not reading it won’t make them worse.
Not doing the obvious thing you know you should do — the thing that positions you for future success — rarely hurts you right away.
The small choices we make on a daily basis either work for us or against us. One choice puts time on your side. The other ensures it’s working against you. Time amplifies what you feed it.
On the first day, the difference between the choices that help us and the choices that hurt us isn’t noticeable. But as the days turn to weeks, weeks into years, and years into decades do the small choices create massively different results.
Whenever this idea is brought up, people are quick to interject. “But … I do these things and I don’t get the results.” And it’s true, most of us make the right choices most of the time. But most of the time isn’t the same as all of the time.
For your choices to compound, you need to be consistent. Intensity will only carry you in the short term but if you want compounding results you need consistency. In the absence of immediate rewards, we can keep up the intensity for a while but most of us become intermittent.
A lack of consistency keeps ordinary people from extraordinary results. It’s like we’re Sisyphus rolling a boulder halfway up the hill, only to throw our hands in the air and go home. When we show up the next day, we see the boulder at the bottom of the hill. Not only did this undermine our progress but it makes getting started even harder.
Excelling at the small choices that compound over time perpetually leaves you in favorable circumstances. No matter what happens in the world, you’re never in a position where you are forced into a bad decision.
If you want results you need to be willing to pay the price. The price is both easier than you imagine and harder than you think. The price is consistently doing the small choices that put you on the path to success for years. The price is knowing that time is working on your side even when the results don’t show it … yet.
When you look below the surface, giant leaps aren’t really giant leaps at all. They’re a series of ordinary choices that suddenly become noticeable. If you look for the magic moment, you’ll miss how ordinary becomes extraordinary.
“Travel and tell no one.
Live a true love story and tell no one.
Live happily and tell no one.
People ruin beautiful things.”
— Khalil Gibran
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Farnam Street, Tiny Thought, Discipline
If small changes create big results, then why is success so elusive?
The answer boils down to a single word: discipline. Not many people have consistent discipline when times are good. Even fewer in times of stress.
Anyone can do something once. Not everyone can do it consistently. Eating healthy for a meal is common. Eating healthy all week is not. Working out occasionally is common. Working out a few times a week is not. Going to bed on time is easy. Doing it for a week is not.
Positioning yourself for future success is simple but not easy. The hardest part is the discipline required to do otherwise ordinary things for an extraordinarily long period of time, even when the results are barely noticeable.
When people say you need to love the process, this is what they mean. Can you do it when it’s hard? Can you do it when other people stop? Can you work on something long enough to let it compound? Can you do it when the results aren’t visible?
Putting yourself in a position for success is simple. Doing it day in and day out is hard.
Extraordinary results come from ordinary people with uncommon consistency.
“Not everyone deserves to know the real you. Let them criticize who they think you are.”
— Unknown
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a big part of my zine-writing process is to write a bunch of 1200-word blog posts to figure out what’s even happening with the topic and then condense them into tiny adorable pages in the zine
—Julia Evans
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